Kim Ho, Times Educational Supplement, 13 December, 2013

When Olympic diver Tom Daley came out, his video went viral. But he wasn’t the first: one young Australian’s film on the same subject was already an internet sensation. Kim Ho reveals why he made it.

In late 2012, I started writing a short film called The Language of Love, a boy’s internal monologue about coming to terms with his homosexuality. Few people could have expected it to evolve into an internet sensation.

I feel I should explain my situation before proceeding further. In New South Wales, Australia, our state Anti-Discrimination Act still allows certain independent schools to expel, refuse admission to or otherwise discriminate against students who are gay or transgender. To uphold the values and ethos of their institution, many schools with a certain religious affiliation are prepared to ostracise vulnerable youths.

With considerable pride, I can say that my school – a major selective independent – fosters a non-denominational ethos, promoting acceptance rather than merely tolerance. Even in an all-boys environment, students can be openly gay with very few cases of bullying. Our headmaster allowed my “coming out” story to be filmed and my classmates celebrated the fact that I’d created a work of art – the subject matter wasn’t a problem.

In January 2013, I performed the film to camera with a small team and a tiny budget. In April, we released it online. Before long, Stephen Fry had tweeted it, and later Dannii Minogue and Ellen DeGeneres. The film was featured by The Sydney Morning Herald, The Advocate, The Huffington Post, BuzzFeed and Upworthy, and screened at festivals in Shanghai and Cardiff. Most importantly for us, it received an overwhelming amount of positive feedback from lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people around the world. Our little project was exceeding our wildest expectations, which made us wonder what else it might be capable of achieving.

The Language of Love was always firmly rooted in education. As a written monologue, it is part of an initiative run by the Australian Theatre for Young People called The Voices Project, which aims to develop theatrical works written by young Australians that drama students can perform as assessment pieces. However, it quickly became apparent that the work as a film held significant pedagogical value.

I received private messages from gay people saying how it had given them the strength to come out, and heard second hand of a homophobic person reassessing their viewpoint after seeing it. As a result, I believe that film is a very effective medium for social change, and has the potential to profoundly affect the development of ethical mindfulness in children.

Friendship, courage and hope

Unfortunately, I have also observed a subtle, insidious form of discrimination. Boys will use pejoratives like “faggot”, not against gay people but instead to demean or tease their straight friends. Similarly, words like “retard” and “spastic” have also worked their way into schoolyard vernacular. This phenomenon underscores a kind of careless abuse very common in boys my age. That “gay” is now synonymous with “bad” may simply be a representation of thoughtlessness rather than malice. It is human nature to follow other people’s opinions when you have not yet formed your own; it makes sense that this problem would be particularly relevant to young people.

Moreover, I fear that the anonymity afforded on social networks may exacerbate the problem. On Facebook, I frequently see posts known as “frapes”, when someone hijacks their friend’s account and posts an embarrassing status. It is very telling that, among boys, the vast majority of frapes are false confessions of homosexuality, as if it is the most shameful secret imaginable. As an aspiring writer, I despair more at their lack of imagination than anything else, but this strange ritual nevertheless illustrates a new kind of unthinking prejudice.

I therefore maintain that it is essential to start discussions in controlled environments, to initiate thought and reflection on complex issues like these. I don’t profess to be particularly socially minded at 18, but I’ve found it fascinating to observe the reactions of young people towards The Language of Love.

It doesn’t, on the face of it, look as though it should work. It deals with homosexuality, it’s low-budget and surreal, it has an Asian performer who talks incessantly for 10 minutes with an Australian accent – certainly not the type of attention-grabbing content that young people usually consume.

But somehow the film started a discourse. My classmates were very open to talking about the subject matter. They related to the message of friendship, courage and hope regardless of their sexuality and ethnicity. I think the monologue, its form being inherently personal and confessional, became an instructive exercise in empathy.

During class discussions, it’s unrealistic to expect teenagers to be well informed about everything; we all know they have more important things on their minds. A film is an effective way to establish baseline knowledge, but it’s also entertaining. As my monologue mentions, watching French films to inadvertently soak up the language is a lot more enjoyable than studying verb conjugations. How appropriate that my guiding inspiration was a short film promoting marriage equality, It’s Time.

I suspect that the fictionalised nature of The Language of Love creates a special dynamic with the student. By trusting the audience with his innermost thoughts, my protagonist, Charlie, is inviting a comparison between himself and the individual viewer. “What would I do in his situation?” and “How would I react if this were my friend?” are common responses, and I feel they bring people closer to seeing the personal dimension of this particular social issue. Empathy and understanding are surely key to reducing discrimination.

We are fortunate in Western society to be able to express ourselves without fear of persecution, and educational institutions must lead the way. Some will write young people off as impressionable but I prefer to think of them as the most open-minded individuals on the planet. Change is happening, and schools will be the perfect places to nurture a new generation that is thoughtful and considerate, accepting and kind.

Kim Ho, December 2013

Two new interviews with Kim

Two new interviews with Kim have been published recently, each with its own particular perspective on THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE.

In the interview for DANIEL, the leading US publication for gay Asian men, Kim talks about the discussions he had with mentor Tommy Murphy on deciding the overall arc of the film, and discovering the piece’s emotion core. He also talks about his current projects and future plans. Read the piece by clicking below.

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The second interview, for PERIL, a magazine exploring Asian-Australian culture and arts, Kim talks about his dual cultural background, and the impact of the film on Asian-Australian viewers.


Meanwhile, the film has had a fantastic response at festivals in Glasgow, Dublin, New York (see Laura at the Asian American Film Festival, below) and Vancouver, and 8 more festivals have now confirmed they will be showing the film in the next two months, bringing the film to live audiences in Australia, China, Germany, Denmark and 3 cities in the US.  

For the full list of screenings, see here, and if you are interested to screen the film, contact us, here. #spreadthelove

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¡100,000 GRACIAS!

We were thrilled recently to have the Spanish-subtitled version of THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE, EL LENGUAJE DEL AMOR, featured on leading Spanish-language news-site UPSOCL (a sister site to the awesome Upworthy).

We really wanted the film to reach audiences outside the English-language speaking countries, and so commissioned versions with Spanish, Chinese and French subtitles.

Needless to say, we were delighted this week to see that the Spanish-subtitled version of the film has now been seen more than 100,000 times, with tens of thousands of views coming from all across Latin America. ¡Muchísimas Gracias to Upsocl and to everyone who has seen and shared the film!

See below for the Spanish-subitled version (and click here for the French and Chinese subtitled versions).

Btw, we also put the film onto Youku, the Chinese equivalent to YouTube, and 80,000 people have seen the film there. #Spreadthelove.

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Una irónica y delicada mirada sobre el primer amor y el despertar sexual desde la perspectiva de un joven, EL LENGUAJE DEL AMOR es escrito y actuado por Kim Ho, bajo la guía del exitoso escritor australiano Tommy Murphy y dirigido por Laura Escrivano.

Charlie tiene algo que decir a su mejor amigo. ¿ Encontrará las palabras?


Este cortometraje ‘derretirá tu corazón’ (The Advocate). Madurar, salir del closet y aprender a hablar EL LENGUAJE DEL AMOR.

En EL LENGUAJE DEL AMOR, Charlie, un chico de 17 años, le es difícil encontrar las palabras para ser fiel consigo mismo .. y con su mejor amigo.

‘Este puede fácilmente ser un trabajo icónico literario para los adolescentes que enfrentan una situación como esta, que necesitan saber que no están solos, que sus pensamientos son normales y no raros….Y SOBRETODO QUE DEBEN SEGUIR SU CORAZÓN’

El lenguaje del amor: el mejor video que podrás ver este día

Thrilled to be featured on Splendid Mind! ‘The best film you will see this day!’


¿Cómo explicar el amor? ¿Cómo decirlo abierta y francamente? Dicen que el amor es como el mar: siempre esta ahí y siempre es diferente. Y por ser diferentes muchas veces es visto como algo riesgoso, peligroso, intrigante. Pero aquellos que tienen la valentía de demostrarlo yluchar por él, son aquellos que subliman su alma y se engrandecen como individuos. El siguiente video es una verdadera obra maestra que tienes que ver: 

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Happy Valentine’s Day!

A big happy Valentine’s Day to you!

We are thrilled to report that YouTube is featuring THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE as a favourite for Valentine’s Day on their daily round up of what’s best on the platform, YouTube Nation. Jacob Soboroff introduces the film, saying that ‘you HAVE to see it!’

Kim, appearing on the show, says about the film: ‘I really wanted to explore the idea of love being universal, whether you are gay or straight, regardless of who you love or who are you are, it’s all the same’.

We, understandably, are very happy!

Says Kim: How wonderful that YouTube is supporting The Language of Love on Valentine’s Day! All love is equal, and I’m so proud to see YouTube promoting that message with our film.

And Laura sent us this, from LA, where she is now based: ‘It’s super exciting to have The Language of Love featured on YouTube Nation, especially on their Valentine’s Day special. It’s an important day to share our support for same love, partnerships and marriage equality both in Australia (where same-sex couples are not afforded this basic human right) and overseas. We can’t think of a better way of being ‘proud to love’ than sharing our film with YouTube Nation audiences this Valentine’s Day’

We hope that being featured on YouTube Nation will bring the film to the attention of a lot more young people around the world who will relate to what Charlie is going through.  We’ll let you know.

Next week, some very exciting festival news! Happy Valentine’s Day to you all!